FOREWARD

Ideally both you and your partner will read, reflect on, and discuss the material you will find here. However, if your partner refuses, all is not lost.  Progress on improving your marriage can still come about, even if you are the only one working on it.  Armed with a new perspective on yourself, your partner, and your marriage, your attitude and behavior can have a tremendous impact on your spouse.

Our recommendation to getting the most out of this site is to carefully read Parts I through IV in order first. In these sections a number of questions are posed. In addition, there are written exercises. When you see the cartoon (left), take the time to think about and write down your thoughts and feelings (we recommend a spiral notebook) before continuing on to read the rest of the text.

Each page contains a lot of information. It is important to go slowly and understand what is being communicated, and the questions and exercises are designed to help that process. Keep your original answers and when you have been through the site a couple of times, compare those original answers with your current thoughts and feelings.  This process should help you see the patterns of thinking and behavior, by yourself and/or your spouse, that worked against your marriage. 

When you finish Parts I through IV you can access the other pages of the site in any order. After you have gone through the whole site, go back and read it again and again. Repetition will help ingrain the concepts in your mind, and revisiting the material often brings new insights.

Our sincere hope is that you will find enddivorce.com to be a useful tool in your quest for a great marriage.  Please let us know what you think by sending an email to us (click on “Contact Site Webmaster” at the bottom of any page). Thank you.