PART V - THE MAJOR ISSUES

Control

Some people live marriage with the idea that they are in charge.  Their opinion is always right, and their way is the only way.  They treat their partner and children as if they were a drill instructor or boss, not spouse or parent. Often, the “control freak” comes equipped with a quick wit and sharp tongue, making it difficult to communicate with them.

Many marriages have failed and countless others are miserable because of the prevalence of this behavior.  Many counselors see this as a sympton of insecurity, or an out-of-control ego.  The behavior is certainly immature and selfish.

Every person needs and deserves to have their viewpoints and desires heard and respected.  This is especially true for spouses. Otherwise, the relationship is not really a marriage. Superior intellect, education, or physical strength is no excuse for treating a life partner like a pet.

The concepts in Part IV form a framework for treating each other with love, respect, and equality.  If this does not work for your marriage, you need professional counseling.